BUNS, ABS, AND HEART OF STEEL #3

[TRUSTING]

I really feel that the thing that has saved me is going dark. It got to the point where I had to for my sanity, but have discovered that it has given me so much more.
Removing yourself from the physical presence of a person who has caused you so much pain is healing. It lets you focus more "forward" than "backward". It puts the control and power back into your life. It makes you realize that you can live totally and completely without your Ml'er. It no longer allows you to be a scapegoat or a doormat for your ML'er. He has to to find another person for this job, and usually it is the OW. It makes the Ml'er look within, hopefully. I wish that I would have gone dark at the very beginning, but hindsight is 20/20.