I'm in the exact same boat, but there is an A on W's part.
Sadly, it doesn't explain anything away for me, it only angers me that she's blind to what is holding us back.
When W told me what all the issues were in the M- I wasn't upset, I was excited...I figured we could go to MC for the first time and really make some progress...unfortunately- W said she was done...a month later I discover OM1.
It is infuriating- to know what all the problems were and not get that one second chance...it literally is criminal!
Keep you head held high- you are a man of men and although this is tradgic- it's not yet over, and you will be able to move forward knowing you were willing to do whatever it would take.
