Huband is having an emotional affair

[ALJ]

Maynard- Thank you for your helpful advice. Sometimes I feel like I have not done enough to state my stance on our marriage but I am pretty sure he knows how I feel. When he would call to talk to the kids, I would talk with him for an additional 30-45 minutes about the kids and what was going on in his life. Of course he did not show a big interest in what was going on in mine. I just felt that if he saw that I was trying to change the way I was communicating with him and notice the changes, he would at least have a change of heart. Yeah right. At the present time, h and I are in financial ruins and would not be able to afford a divorce. He has not even uttered the word divorce during all of this. It isn't something I really want even though H has moved on in his life with this 24 year old girl. It feels like they pulled a fast one on me.

Chatterbug- I want to be able to have the gumption to do this and I will try to. I really did not know how to reply to his text. On one hand it sounded like he was reaching out to me (H has major problems with showing emotions and expressing himself) and on the other hand it sounded like he has made his choice(the OW) and he is going to "suffer the consequences" just to be with her. I am trying to get rid of the feelings that I have failed my H by not supporting him in moving away when he wanted to back in 2004 and now he has found someone who was there for him emotionally and willing to move to where he is and basically filling the voids that he claims I was not filling. I have been having trouble sleeping at night think about what has happened and I know when he comes back to visit the kids, I am going to have to know how to handle him. H has not been a cake eater when it came to wanting to be physical with me. I was the one pursing him in that aspect. I will not do this anymore. Should I ask for my key back from him if he doesn't give it back first? Do I allow him to sleep in my room on the floor like he used to when he visits?

I am basically an easy going person and it takes a lot to anger me. I should want to give H a piece of my mind and tell him where to stick it but I am more hurt than anything. I have to get myself together.