flowmom | need to commit to myself

[flowmom]

Thanks for kickstarting my new thread, friends. GIMA and Mo3, I'd like to read more about your sitches. It comforts me to read about the journeys of others who dare to hope for the possibility of reconciliation.

Your husband hasn't filed or mentioned divorce recently, so that is a positive thing to build on.

He definitely has a legal strategy and he's following it. I'm assuming that that's part of his strategy (not rushing me when I'm clearly not ready).

Detachment doesn't mean that you won't be emotional. You can be detached and still feel sad, angry, and numb. To me detachment means that you have reached a point where regardless of the outcome of your sitch, YOU know that YOU will be okay. A survivor.

That's a helpful description. HB's writing about the LBS journey got me thinking about being a survivor and what that means. Probably for some it means surviving but being emotionally maimed. And for others it means surviving and thriving as whole people.