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[25yearsmlc]

The best reward is living well. Revenge doesn't have a place. You'll know you've gotten there when you actually hope that she lives well, too.

Absolutely. This person has children with you. Of course you wish them well. You can also wish that they someday regret their mistakes with you but here's a newsflash for those who know they truly did their best: if your spouse is so whacked out now or has their ego so invested in being "right' that they'll never see the light-good riddance. Don't hold your breath waiting for anything from them. Make your life all about you and let it all go.

BUT even If they DO "see the light" at some point, know that chances are, you'll never hear about it. Their ego won't allow them to fully "get it" let alone tell YOU about it. You'd be the last one to hear in all likelihood. Hence the focus not being on them. My sister got a rare message from her ex h, telling her that he "gets it now" and I think he does. It was a month before her NEW MARRIAGE was schedules...Too bad, so sad, too late, etc. She's happier now with someone who makes the R a priority in his life and now that she knows what it's like to have a normal healthy M, she'd never go back to what she had with her loer ex. But her ex, is miserable and that doesn't make her happy. It makes their kids wistful and they see their dad as pathetically facing karma for being so deceitful and selfish. I recall him telling my sister --for SOME UNKNOWN reason, something that really hurt her as a co-parent and that is, that he now does NOT BELIEVE IN GOD and I just blurted out.... "oh, well it shows." Sometimes the truth comes out in a sentence or two.

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