My UFO (unbelievably fabulous observations)

[hoosiermama]

if we stopped seeing each other, I'm OK with how it ended.

yeah--that's what I'm aiming at. being OK with how it ended. and right now I'm not. and I think that even if I get no response back of any kind, just having an opportunity to communicate and not just disappear off the planet to them would be healing for me.

I understand about not wanting my D to have the heritage of all these family issues. She feels quite separate from them and has for awhile because xH's brothers are considerably more affluent than we are, and their activities are quite different as a result. Funny--xH believes he's gotten away from the dysfunctional heritage of his father, but he's actually the brother who is most like him--immature, narcissisitic and unable to see much further than his own nose.