hey, checkin in quick, not much time...just sending (((Luv)))
don't let his actions change you.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
I picked up H at airport yesterday and he actually had something nice to say for once. When he got into the car he said, "the car looks really nice hun" (I just washed my perty escalade cuz I had to turn it back in - it's leased)
We made small talk in the car and I asked how his trip was etc. When he got home he went to see the kids and it was weird bcuz they kinda shined him on. I guess they're over him being gone so much.
I told him about the details to purchase my new car. He made a rude comment in front of the kids "I'm gonna take your mom to the used car lot." Whatever. This is a guy who normally gets excited to buy me anything big or small but that man is gone I know.
I was going to get a base model car and he said, "no let's get the fully loaded one" so I said hey, if you say so. We went to dinner with the kids. He made a couple of rude comments and I was visibly irritated (I know! I let him get to me!) so he was saying to the kids, "now you're mom's upset." They said, "why mom?" I said, "because I'm tired that your dad has nothing nice to say." He changed his attitude and poured my beer and said cheers.
I got another gun put away and need a couple more before I head out for battle.
Keep me in your prayers guys.
Luv
M44 H41 M20 T23 3 older teens Bomb Nov 09 "i'm not happy" EA Nov 09 w/coworker Another PA in Mar 10 I Filed Apr 10 D final Dec 10
I told him about the details to purchase my new car. He made a rude comment in front of the kids "I'm gonna take your mom to the used car lot." Whatever. This is a guy who normally gets excited to buy me anything big or small but that man is gone I know.
I was going to get a base model car and he said, "no let's get the fully loaded one"
so did you go to the used car lot? if you didn't, then take his comment as a joke, because that's what it is, don't take his comments personally. and you say that man is gone, but I still see him in there because he wanted you to get the fully loaded one. if he didn't give a crap, he wouldn't be getting you a fully loaded car.
I know you think he's doing things out of feeling guilty, but that's not true. yes, part of it can be, but deep down he is wanting YOU, the real you. So start becoming that person.
your slowly making it to the right path, so keep doing the things you know you should be doing.
and you answering the kids that your tired of him not having anything nice to say...well, normally that's not the words I would have chosen, but you stated what you felt and it has obviously bothered you, so this is a battle you chose to pick and he turned himself around and that was good.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
I know you think he's doing things out of feeling guilty, but that's not true. yes, part of it can be, but deep down he is wanting YOU, the real you. So start becoming that person.
I could only hope that's what he is wanting.
your slowly making it to the right path, so keep doing the things you know you should be doing.
I think I'm doing much better - yeah.
Thanks for your input ST.
Hugs!
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M44 H41 M20 T23 3 older teens Bomb Nov 09 "i'm not happy" EA Nov 09 w/coworker Another PA in Mar 10 I Filed Apr 10 D final Dec 10
I can't believe H came home on time yesterday but my feeling is he did cuz he'll be coming home late today since it's Friday...anyway I'm not supposed to care right?
He seemed to be his normal self yesterday and talkative. I had a friend over and he was socializing with us.
I made plans for tomorrow to stay at a hotel by the beach. It's a really nice place with a patio - steps from the sand.
My 3 things today..
1 - shopping! 2 - pedicure 3 - dinner with a friend
M44 H41 M20 T23 3 older teens Bomb Nov 09 "i'm not happy" EA Nov 09 w/coworker Another PA in Mar 10 I Filed Apr 10 D final Dec 10
Luv, this may come as a shock to you, but I get pedicures - maybe - once a month... I can't stand to sit there!!! Same thing w/my nails, same thing w/my hair (and I need color/highlights and a cut everytime!)! God, it makes me insane to just sit there!!!
That's not pampering to me. It's pure torture.
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
