Clinging....I think one of the key's is ....reaching a point when you stop blaming yourself and stop being a victim.

Accepting your weaknesses and understanding how you might have done a better job as a spouse is a big step. Then, changing is key. When you can make the hurdle and recognize that the tools you worked with (which were 'given to us')were not as good as the new tools that you gain, then, you can push out and up.

Remember, the WAS spouse chose not to honor their vows. Desiring to stay in a marriage where the other partner is unwilling to be a team partner, disrespects you, has a pattern of being unfaithful...is unhealthy.

YES...one should give a maximum effort to save your M in the beginning. However, no one should allow themselves to have their spirit destroyed.

FIB

Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;