The more I think about it, I know it's the right thing to do to contact his wife. I know I would want to know. At least my wife had the courage to come clean. But despite everything that's happened, it is very difficult for me to make a decision that may ultimately backfire and drive her out of my life forever.
Yep -- it is. No doubt. You've just been handed a big ol' stinking sh*t sandwich, Broken. You're about to face a whole SERIES of "very difficult" decisions. You can either run from them, or try to run around them, or you can steel yourself and run straight into the storm.
Check out one of my old threads about heading straight into the storm -- you can find them all here:
For reference, my wife's affair was from May - Aug 2007.
It's time to embrace the suck, buddy. There's really no other way that works. I know the article you're referring to, and I have great respect for MWD, but on this one matter, she's simply wrong, or at least my experience has been that the approach in the article is wrong. It doesn't work.
Puppy
P.S. To answer your question, YES, this worked for me (see previous post).
