Last night W had v'ball game and said she would call and let me know where kids would be. The regular sitter couldn't come so she had to try and find someone else. No call all day. On my way home, I called her sisters and her mom, they all live on the way home, and they had not heard from W. I called W's cell phone and she didn't answer. I got home and went inside looking for a note or something-nothing. So, I sent her a txt - do you have the kids with you? She sent one back - yes, did you get vm? I did not get a vm or a missed call or anything. To be fair, her phone has been acting up, so maybe she did try calling. No reason for her not to since she had kids with her and wanted me to get there ASAP. Anyway, I went to school and picked them up. She was busy and didn't really talk. Took kids home and gave showers, etc. Got txt from W @9:00 - going for a beer. Replied - OK. She got home @11:30, changed clothes and slept on couch again. I, of course, was asleep. She had to get up at 3:00am to go to work so only got three hours of sleep. I guess my question is: Is this to be expected? I have been told to expect her to "test me" and to push things, but this whole time, she has never slept on the couch more that a night or two at a time. This all happened about a week after things were going as good as they had been in a long time. I'd like to think it's partly due to things I have been doing that I have been told here and from reading the DR book. Do what works, not what feels right....is this working? Is she feeling guilty? Should I keep acting "as if"? We have only seen each other for about ten minutes all week and she has been an a$$ the whole time. It's hard to judge what is working and what is not right now. Suggestions????????????????
