You are about the same age I was when my fisrt marriage ended. Wish I had DB back then. I think also for same length of time I was married ten years we met in college made a lot of money both of us. Took trips all over. No kids. In the DB book she talks about the lasting wounds. That is very much the truth. You do have a lot of your life ahead of you. You can start another one.
But don't kid yourself that the ghost of this one will EVER go completely away. My ex called me couple of weeks ago. I think she heard about my separation from W. She is now 45. Never remarried no kids. Makes a crap load of $. She asked me what happened with W. I didn't want to tell her. We don't speak that often now. She said "I know this might sound strange, and I'm not sure if she would take my call, by would like to call her and tell her that she is making the biggest mistake of her life if she split with you." Self serving for ex? Maybe.
The point is that H does probably have a mental disorder. It will be tough to deal with the rest of your life. Can it be managed. Yes. Will it be managed? up to him not you. Just make sure your decision is based in careful consideration for everything so you can live with it. You can't blame it on him fully. He is sick. My W is sick. We are not abandoning them if they continue not to take care of their illness. The question is how much time do you want to give this?
Nothing extraordinary happens when you make the easy choice.
Gritt
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
