Well it may be a moot point. He lives out of town and has an unlisted number. (Oh yeah, he's a cop. Cool, huh?)
My wife's OM was a cop, too (well, going thru the academy to become one). I exposed them, including to his parents (with whom he lived) and his sergeant, as well as to their employer (their affair was partially taking place at work).
Today, 2 1/2 years later, my wife and I are still together, and celebrating the birth of our first grandchild. Her affair was busted inside of 3 months, the financial/legal bleeding stopped, and we've been about the tough work of piecing our marriage back together.
YOUR WAY WILL NOT WORK. Please check my registration date and my # of posts. This does not include my posts under another username -- Chocolateeyes -- (since 4/12/2004, and nearly 2000 more posts). I have been studying literally THOUSANDS of affairs for over 3 years, and I'm sorry to tell you:
- Your wife is lying to you.
- She cannot be trusted.
- Patiently waiting, and "being her friend" will not work.
- By your approach, she is slowly losing whatever respect she has left for you, and since women tie their feelings of "love" VERY closely with their feelings of "respect," she is losing LOVE for you.
If you want a debate, join a forensic society. If you want to bust your wife's affair and have the best chance of saving your marriage, I'd urge you to follow the ADVICE that you've received here, from some very wise and experienced posters.
