I actually think it is a good thing that you recognize detachment is a long process. It is very easy to say, yeah, I am detached when in fact all you are really doing is distancing yourself.
The thing I learned about detachment is there are many forward steps then for one reason or another you take a few steps back. It's part of the process and as best as I can tell the timeline for everybody is different.
I do think once you take so much focus off your H (his thoughts, motivations, assumptions, words) you will find it much easier to make the baby steps towards detachment.
For a long time I was scared to detach because I thought once I did then I would be done for good. I don't think that is the case.
