she told me that the more emotional I got, the more I was "pushing" her toward the other man.
maybe some truth to that; but it's WAS spew...
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Now that we have separated, she is following through on kindling a relationship with him.
And that just proves the point that she was going to do this anyway.
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Also, by her moving out, we lower our chances for a reconcile - don't we?
Statistics do back that up; but it's not a given. Therefore, you have to keep DB'ing.
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I know its a move I need to make but I am petrified to do so as the next step would be divorce - which I am pretty sure is the direction she would take it as a result of being completely separated at that point.
If she's involved with another man; once she has him lined up, her next step might divorce anyway. She certainly won't come back to you in a respectful fashion; she'd be there for the same reason she is now...she's comfortable and has nowhere else to go.
You'll know what to do when you know it...everyone has their own time table.
