Mike...I told my W that if she wanted to act like a single woman; then she needed to move out of the marital home. That simple.
So she did.
I know that's not what you're looking for; but you're not establishing any boundaries here dude. How are you going to feel when you know that she's going away to spend weekends with her BF leaving you behind with your S? How do you feel about sharing her with another man? Might as well let them do it right in your own house and make them dinner afterwards.
She will never respect you as long as you allow things to progress as you are.
