I am convinced I need to move on and get a life while time settles in and begins to do its thing.
I now I need to get out and do stuff - for myself.
I have been working with my son every day - for myself.
I have been getting back into my job - for myself.
But how do I handle the family outing situations?
Going out to dinner, eating dinner at home, grocery shopping, family trips (weekend or otherwise).
If I am to make myself less available and "extricate" myself from my wife's life, how do I do so and still do the family stuff that we have always done?
As you remember, my wife and I are in separate bedrooms and operating as friends in our house in Florida. She has a boyfriend who is married and in a similar situation. He is as much a WAH as she is a WAW. They are making plans to get together soon.
She is very comfortable with the arrangement now as she feels as if she is following through with her commitment to the family and herself at the same time - obviously, because I am no longer in the picture love wise.
I don't want to sell the house, split the belongings and each move to a separate home - but I cannot think of any better way to allow her to relish in her freedom and better understand the concept - "you cannot be true to family and follow your selfish desires at the same time".
I know, that doesn't sound like a person who is letting go, but I am there as my wife no longer loves me, she no longer wants to love me, and at this time, no longer wants to work on the relationship.
So how do I do that - make myself less available and still take care of my family responsibilities?
