I'm sure it's too late now to tell you not to talk to your W while you are this upset. But let me ask you something. Why are you so shocked and outraged? The woman told you she wanted a D. Is it b/c she acted nice? If so, then that is a perfect example of men placing too much into one little piece of positive behavior. That is why "most" WAW's feel that they have to be cold and act mean b/c if they show any niceness....the LBH immediately thinks she is softening and reads a lot of hope into things.

Look, these past two years was her being "done". She was finished when she walked out that door. She left you & the M and told you she wanted a D. You act as if this is a total surprise to you.

You are mad b/c you have been working so hard on the house. Weren't you getting it ready to sell? Wasn't that the purpose behind it? Now you say you won't do another thing. So......weren't you going to get part of the money if the house sold?

Listen, you are falling back into your old habits if you carry through with this behavior. You have a "whamo" to hit and you get upset, fold camp and stop putting forth any action. That is what she saw in the past. You stopped going forward when you lost your job two years ago and didn't press forward. She needs to see changes. And.....this is not just for her, but for you most of all. Don't lay down and get into the fetal position and cover your head up and stop moving.

This is a challenge to see if you will allow the depression to take over and be in charge of your life, or will you stand up against the depression and take charge and decide that you will be happy and you will have a good life regardless if you get a D or not!


It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!