How do I act?

[Surviving03]

Hello

That list of don't do's are really insightful... I wish I would have know then what I know now, Im so fearful that I have already ruined my chances because I started right off the bat basically doing everything I shouldnt have (too needy too desperate, involving too many people, etc) I still have not heard anything from my husband. I was told today from my husbands supervisor that he emailed them and he is really angry. They had been trying to contact him and find out his itinerary for when he comes home (for transportation purposes) and to ask him what is going on, and he hadnt been responding to them. So they got a little angry themselves and sent a message to him saying that he needs to prepare to have a long talk with his Commander and supervisor and whoever else when he gets home and that he has a lot of explaining to do (the military can be very pushy when it comes to family issues, they do not take it lightly, and if it was found out that my husband had cheated there could be very serious consequences for his career) and he replied and sounded very defensive and said he doesnt understand why everyone is in his business and he hasnt done anything wrong, this is a private issue and so forth. Which is completely valid and I understand his point. I added a little fuel to this fire by going to his work when this first happened, but that is what I was told I should do. They dont want family members or military members dealing with issues like this on their own especially while someone is deployed to a war environment. So I am not sure if I should still just leave my H alone and not write him, or if i should maybe send him an email saying something like, I apologize that our issue has become very public and I understand that this is a personal issue between you and I and I am not encouraging any of this bombardment you are recieving. Not sure what I should do....