One more quick note. Some divorces will have contractual stipulations that prevent the involved parties from discussing the terms of the settlement. Just be aware of that, and you can request that too. I did that so in case my stbx-h gets married again, the terms of the trusts (should) be essentially off-limits to any future lovers or spouses of my ex.
And lastly, the rules of the state that you're in will determine how long all of this may take. Good luck!
