!Help! Need Advice and encouragement!

[stark648]

I told her we needed to do separate parties and so now we are.

I explained about the roller-coaster effect on the girls and how their hopes get up and then dashed, etc. I told her she can't have it both ways. We can't be like a family and her live somewhere else, and so forth.
She was saying, "Well, the reason I did it like this (leaving girls here) was to do the best for them." I said, "That's why it needs to be like this". I asked her how it was when her parents got divorced and she felt seeing them together, etc.

Birthday girl is fine with it, she said momma would probably just sit and text anyway-maybe eat some cake. she also gets to go two places for b-day. I had a long talk w/d15 ---and s16 when he called later. They were thinking it was mean and sad. I couldn't explain EVERYTHING about it to them, but that they would have to trust my judgement.

I signed over titles and she signed a settlement/sale agreement I had put together.

I got her bike charged and started. I was working on it for a bit. I loaded up some more stuff in her truck to get it out of here, also.

This was the longest she stayed and talked since I can remember. In fact, she only left when I said I had to go pick up d15. She was looking rather sad and tearing here and there. I also noticed the way she was looking at me sometimes---attracted! I was upbeat, confident, joking, lookin' good, etc. (She complimented me on some things). We had a very nice visit and talk.

At some point, she told me she was going back to her therapist tomorrow. (This is the first time she has been to see that crazy woman since this whole mess got started.) I'm thinking Paradise Hotel isn't really bringing her as much happiness as she thought.

Then she was sitting in her truck and looking at me a lot (in a good way).


Here was the thing----she kept acting like she was going to ask me something. She finally started saying: "Why didn't you......." and didn't finish. Then I said --what ? What did you want to say?


She said, "You didn't fight very hard."


I said, "What, for the bike?" (I knew what she meant)

So I quickly said, "Oh, I've just been thinking about some things lately--just thinking about some stuff"

That was when I said I had to hurry up and go get d15.

It was hard not to talk more, but I think I did it right?

She must have gone back and cried--about the party--because s16 called me and was angry-(protective). I calmly explained to him and we were ok before we hung up.

At some point, I think I heard her crying loudly in the background. That just sent chills up me. I do still love her, you know. I hope this b-day restriction is the right thing to do...Her family is going to think I'm just a butt-head, I'm sure.

Did I do right????