Hey Clinging - It was the end of July last year. She filed in August.
Yeah, I'm on a generally upward trajectory.
At some point I stripped the info out of my signature - I guess I should add it back. I guess after my boys had a birthday, I moved out of the house, etc. it was all inaccurate.
Anyway, we had mediation tonight. Holy crap. So, I heard on the drive home that I'm an a$$hole, she hates my guts, and that D was the best decision she's made because now she sees my core.
Yea.
So, we separated our finances previously - or more specifically, I did - and when W heard tonight that I had several thousand dollars in checking from a recent bonus, she got really upset.
But the kicker was this - W stared asking about how I came up with the number for the assets I brought into the marriage. I bought a house in '98, and we got married in '99. I had contended that the down-payment was pre-marriage equity, but the mediator said that what should be considered my share is the equity we got out of the house when we sold it - which was much more. So, W's shares of the assets went down substantially.
She was very emotional about the whole thing. And in the end, she said she wanted to go to court anyway - I think she sees that as a way of scaring / hurting me.
She's gotten to a "I've given up everything" frame of mind - given up her life to take care of kids - now she's giving up her house, etc... It's kind of heartbreaking to hear her say things that imply she regrets our marriage so intently.
