V1olin's new life without wife

[v1olin]

" Go all the way?'" you are funny man! I do have great self control so I think I will be fine. Wife continues to show her true self, need I say more?


Tonight at the divorce support group I was feeling pretty good. There was a woman there that is only a month into her saga and she was very emotional. I suggested Micheles books to her and this site for support. She seemed very happy to know that this resource exists.

[v1olin]

I have been reading in the "sex starved marriage" forum and wow, the stories there are so so similar to mine.

[v1olin]

Had a long and fun filled weekend with my kids and enjoyed going to bed early last night. Normally I cant go to sleep until 1am but I managed to get to sleep by 11pm last night. Still having some money problems but I am doing work currently that will soon start making good money for me.



Meeting with my blind date on thursday night. I suggested we meet at a coffee shop to keep it low pressure. Looking forward to some female company.

[v1olin]

Had to re-schedule the date, bummer.


At the end of this month is the one year anniversary of the bomb- a fricking year! Just motivates me more to get off my butt and start making MY life better.

[ClingingToHope]

My 1-year anniversary of moving out is in May. Mother's Day. Kind of ruins that holiday for a while.

How'd you get set up on the date?

[v1olin]

met online. Date went ok but she is not my type at all. I feel better though getting out there and all. lol

[v1olin]

Ughhh, I have been having a bunch of dreams about my STBX and now her family. What is that all about? I saw my sister in law for the first time since the bomb on friday.

[ClingingToHope]

The dream thing is hard. How do you train your subconscious?

I'm lucky in that is a big enough area and my interests and circle of friends are vastly different than W and her family.

I've seen W's sister once since moving out -- Christmas -- and since I'm not going to do the "fake family" Christmas again I don't know when I'll ever see her again.

Likely it'll be at some kid event.

I keep toying with writing SIL a letter to tell her I'm glad she's gotten her life back on track -- but the longer I wait the less likely I will.

[v1olin]

I missed that reply clinging!

I dont have hardly any contact with her but I see her in my daughters eyes from time to time. She will never be fully removed from my mind, how could that ever happen? Mind sweep?

Tonight I did have dinner with my mil and kids. W is out of town and I have had the kids since wednesday. MIL invited me to dinner this morning and I said sure. A girl from midle school days found me online today and we have been emailing a bit today. I guess I will ask her out soon, seize the day!

[v1olin]

The dinner at MIL's went well but they slipped and said "we went to your house...i mean, your OLD house, former house..." Damn, that hurts. I try not to be bothered by it but it still cuts.