Maybe just tell her that you think you want to focus 100% on understanding her, so you're going to leave yours. She can deal with her side of things when she gets there.

My Retro letter said on it no laptops - I don't know if they'll "confiscate". I have a major work thing to do by Tues AM and I'm not even close. I'd LOVE to bring it. Not bringing it is a strong message to W that I want to discover her this weekend.

Coach: I'm not sure if your question was about TBL or not, but for me, I think it's a good question for me to put some thought to this weekend. I started trying to make a list, but I got the "but" word out in every sentence! The work of the devil or the work of a R in trouble, a problem nevertheless!!