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I have been working on myself and am learning a lot about myself.
I bought the book about Divorce Busting but at the end where it reads if they leave they may not come back.

He has moved out and on. He has filed divorce.
I have accepted it. I respect this decision because I understand through compassionate eyes where he is headed.

I guess I just question what to do about my kids now.
He suggested I move home a State away from here and that he could see them every three weeks.
I guess I am concerned if staying would cause more harm than good, with his broken promises and not seeing them, not keep them a priority. Especially when his new life really gets rolling with all the replay he is doing already. I worry about him having my children around some other woman too soon... we were a VERY close family, we all did EVERYTHING together, all four of us on the couch, bed, etc... so this is VERY HARD for my children and I am STUCK.... my entire family is there and I am chosing to stay here only for him. We moved here for his business. We have no one here except ourselves. This was our Dream and he has turned us on our heads..

Today while I was making my daughters bed I thought:
Kinda hit home for me today when I was making my D7's bed....

I thought, well if he is really in this Crisis, I wouldnt want him to stay with me, unaware of his real TRUE feelings, much less himself and WHO HE IS... Not even knowing WHO he is, if he needs to take this Journey, no matter how long it takes, so be it.

If it will HELP him be a better MAN inside for it, good. I love him ENOUGH genuinely that I want him to be OKAY inside and not hurting like he has always been since I met him and he has never dealt with any of it.

I dont know what the future brings, only God does and I know my heart and where it lies, and so does God. I want my stbx to be okay and what ever that LOOKS like to get him there, its what he needs... if its not ME and the kids right now than its not... I know he needs GOD and maybe going on this Journey will finally get him there. I don't know...

I told him no matter how long it takes, 5 yrs, 7 yrs.. that I will be here for him, welcoming him home, forgiven as he walks through the door. He looked at me like I was crazy, but thats okay, its not about me looking or sounding like a door mat, I genuinely unconditionally love this man and I am trying to do my best to understand it all so I can better LET GO completely FOR ME.
If he ever gets to that place of being at my 'door' and asking to come home...I know he will be 'ready and what he feels will be real and genuine. I guess he needs to see if something else out there will fill the void that I don't fill right now.