If however you could move forward, NEVER look back, never feel regret...then you will have to decide what you want in the end...a chance to put the family back together or move on...
Lin....I don't think ANYONE will have be devoid of any feelings about the demise of a marriage. I agree that this is still early. I also feel that Mike is in a position to get dragged and hurt. He DOES have decisions to make.
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
If however you could move forward, NEVER look back, never feel regret...then you will have to decide what you want in the end...a chance to put the family back together or move on...
Lin
From the sound of it, I need to detach and allow time/patience to play itself out so my wife has a chance to breathe. While at the same time, keep the marriage fire burning by doing what I need to do for myself, as the father/husband in this relationship.
That is a tough dance - detach but still be there for my family.
Come to think of it, that's what I have done for the past 10 years of my life so maybe its not so hard after all.
Gotta stop caring about what she is doing and think more of what I need to do.
Tough dance indeed Mike. When you start doing things in YOUR life without wondering what the effect will bring about in HER, then, you'll know you've crossed a big hurdle. FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
I did not mean to incinuate that one would have no feelings...instead they had a choice if they could move on with no regrets...meaning, no feeling of "what if" or "I wish I had tried this" or "I wish I would given more time"...if you can truly move forward without regret and looking back THEN you can decide what you want to do...wait or move on...and only THEN are in a place to make that sort of decision...
I know for myself personally, when it came down to it I felt that I needed more time...I would not have been able to move forward into a new relationship with out wondering if H was truly DONE...and I was right in doing so because although he had tried hard to convince me that he was, in the end he wasn't and we have been able to successfully rebuild our marriage.
Understood Lin. But you are truly a rare bird here. Most here, don't reach where you are.
Yes...people should try to save their M IMO. Mike just has to decide on how he wants to do it. FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
