I don't know about the stupid and cheerful thing she said. I've tried to set a boundary on lying. Yes it's hard to address without being or seeming confrontational.
Ok - well that is a very good list. Now pick the most pressing one. I sometimes think if you (general you) tackle one thing some of the rest sort of fall in to place.
Yep--totally has been true for me over the years! "A body in motion tends to stay in motion" comes to mind.
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IMO becoming financially independent will change your life in a HUGE way. This won't happen overnight but the sooner you can start this the better. I happen to think once you have your own money and you can support yourself without so much help from your H lots of other things will become easier.
YES! YES! YES! I think financial independence= freedom!!! and control!!!
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
So, isn't there ever a point when the LBS asks someone if they're being made a fool of with the WAS having a public romance? If his coach knows about an A that he is having, then a lot of people know. Aren't I opening myself to finding out about it in a really humiliating way? Can't I ask his brother a leading question at least?
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me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
You should definitely find out and expose if it hasn't been already. All you're doing is establishing a boundary.
You are still married and he needs to remember that. You are not responsible for his happiness. Do it also as an example for your kids. You're protecting them as well.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
Hmmm... will asking his brother be "exposing" in a way? (which is good) or would it be confirming?
(sorry FM- am asking this Q for others to respond)
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
