I will try the steps. I love self help stuff like this.
As for the rehearsals, it's a mixed blessing. One of the problems prebomb was we lived separate lives. I escaped to the theatre to avoid H. I didn't realize I did this until postbomb. I'm afraid that once I'm gone at night, we won't spend any time together and this will bring us back to the old patterns.
On the other hand, when he is abusive, it's good to have a place to go. It's a balance.
