I understand exactly what you're saying Allen. And I told her last night that I will have to agree on the Therapist. In fact, I told her exactly what you had advised someone else; that I want one with experience in Infidelity, one that believes in marriage, and believes that Affairs are addictions. That we will interview them until we find that person.
However, I placed upon her the responsibility of making the appointment for both of us to go. I gave her a list of FT to call. The reason I'm placing this upon her is that I have always done all of the legwork for anything in our M. She needs responsibility. Add to that, I'm not convinced of her desire to recon. I believe it's all talk. I want her to WORK for it. It was her idea to try MC; let her do the work. Cause I'm in a place where I fine with this M ending if she isn't going to commit 100 percent. I will not continue to live with half truths and half a$$ attempts at saving a M.
So, while I understand your advice for me going first to FT, in my sitch I'm not going to waste my time and money unless I see that she's committed to it.
