Invinceable

[MichelleLT]

Awwww. That is so chicken of him. Love how these $h!tty communicators can't even just say it right out. If they weren't so passive aggressive with everything in their life, they probably wouldn't be having so many difficulties!

[mishka422]

You know it Michelle!

I did finally send him a reply:

M-Do you have any hours next week?
G-I won't know until tomorrow. This six I know.
M-Then tell me tomorrow. Don't wait until half way through the week. Again, you knew already that you had no hours this wekk but didn't tell me.

No reply from him. I don't expect one. He had better tell me tomorrow.

I'm not 100% convinced that he actually has no hours. Since I don't trust him AT ALL he could be completely blowing smoke. He didn't tell me when he got fired until 2 weeks later. He didn't tell me he lost his job at the gas station, he claimed he was laid off but I found out later through the grapevine in our county that he was fired for 'excessive texting after being warned'. My totally suspicious nature when it comes to him rears it's head now. The urge to contact the broom and flat out ask her what he's doing is nearly overwhelming, but I won't go there. His crap is her problem now, not mine. However, his problems are lapping over into my life because of Marc. I can't stand this!

I'm pulling the paperwork together that I need to give to the state enforcement agency. I've had enough. Yes, 25% of zero is still zero but at least it would be in the system so it would be harder for him to just skip it because it would inconvenience him.

SUCKS!

[MichelleLT]

And they WILL know how much his paycheck is!

And they can get his tax refund!

Hang in there chica.

It sucks that he won't choose to keep his commitments and follow through on his responsibilities. But you are making it on your own.

Don't bring the broom into it. She will either lie to you or just cause drama. And she'll tell him you were checking up on him in all likelihood.

[Virtually_Handsome]

What makes it all stupid is that if he wanted to work, he could. Maybe not getting paid what he thinks he needs, but more than nothing. My son manages to be too busy with two food delivery jobs, he's not making a lot, but he is paying for his car, his insurance, and his food. Gabe is choosing not to work, IMO.

(((((mishka)))))

[kat727]

He probably thinks all this stuff is beneath him and while he has someone that doesn't care whether he works or not, why would he? File the paper work.

kat

[mishka422]

I don't know if she cares if he works or not, but I certainly do! I'm so sick of this crap. I'm getting the ducks in a row and getting the paperwork together. It just makes me sick to have to do it.

I don't like doing this because it makes me feel like a raging b!tch but this being nice stuff is ridiculous. Honestly, why am I being nice? It's not as if I need to really maintain any kind of co-parenting R with him. He doesn't parent! He shows up once a week to take Marc to karate. Every once in a while he will call Marc at the last minute and ask if he wants to go somewhere but Marc usually has plans with his friends by then.

[kat727]

This isn't a question of being nice or not but a question of doing the right thing. He hasn't so you are doing what needs to be done. Don't sweat it, this is for your family.

kat

[MichelleLT]

For sure!

There's nothing to be sorry about it. You've tried working with him on it, you've been more than patient. It's time to take action.

Let me know if you need help on the paperwork.

[mishka422]

FYI - He didn't tell me today if he got any hours. Gee....am I surprised?

[ClingingToHope]

Really, filing the paperwork in the end it'll help in the long run. You won't have to go through this weekly dance and it'll probably help things between you and the ex.