I actually have read the book. I've been at this for just about 2 years now and I've tried alot of things. In the beginning, I definitely wasn't the "nice guy". I remained friendly but not pursuing, detached, etc. That didn't work. In fact, it actually pushed her farther away and she was very confrontational.
So I went the friend route which she was much more receptive to.
Bottom line is that she's got alot of growing up to do in terms of relationships. She'd rather run away from something uncomfortable than deal with it. And those whom she feels uncomfortable with, she cuts them out of her life. She did that with her best friend and had tried to do it with me. Problem is that since we have children together, she can't get rid of me! LOL.
This talking to her about the issues to let her open up is actually a new thing. It's taken a long time to get here, but I'll see how this goes. If it doesn't work, I'll switch gears again.
Anyone else with suggestions?
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
