Recently my H has started doing a lot more "praiseworthy" things and I have been sure to thank him every time. I keep it simple and short, just a "thanks for watching the kids" or "I appreciate that you helped S with his homework." I sent him an email one day thanking him for cleaning the snow off my car one morning before he left for work (once the shock wore off:)) and he did it again a couple of days later!
It sounds so . . I don't know . . . but it seems like he has been responding. I rarely get much more than a grunt for my words:) but he keeps doing nice, normal, human things and so maybe the words are having an effect. Who knows.
