Should I Tell Her to Move On???

[*KS*Chick*]

well you kind of sound like you've made your mind up. I guess it depends on the fight in the dog. DB isn't just about saving your marriage. I am divorced but will tell you I am a success story IMO.

I should tell you that there are times - quite often in fact, that I am blunt, and possibly too blunt.

What have you done for you? What changes have you made for you? And for how long?

In her mind she tried last year to fix M but I was unaware of her actions. Now I'm tryiing to save it and she knows, but sometimes it really is too little too late.

How long did she try? How long did you try? I'm not trying to say it's tit for tat, but asking how long you have been putting forth the effort, compared to the length of the marriage, etc.

I am now feeling that I don't want to work on it any more.

I reread the chapter on LRT today and it even says rhings may not work out.

Also I read on this board about when women leave/Separate it usually is the end.

More men tend to go back women but not women to men.

Am I wrong on this??

What else can I do???

You're right. Things might not work out. And yet, somewhere, there will be a successful marriage out of this process. Have you checked the other spots on the board also? Piecing?

I'm not jumping you, just offering a different perspective...

If you're done, you're done. If you feel you've done all you can, and can move forward with no regrets, then you are done.

But just because she is ready to file.....doesn't mean it's done, and doesn't mean you are a failure. Those things she brought to light - should probably still be addressed for YOUR success.

Good luck gr8....with whatever you choose.