Try to HELP the wife reconsider... become friends with her... help her work with her husband...
Try NOT to engage the OM, I would imagine that's too stressful for you to handle well.. you will likely do more damage.
I assume officer means police officer... if so, you have a LOT of INFLUENCE you can exert on him.
If I was hitting on another man's wife and I had six cops show up at MY DOOR IN UNIFORM and sit down with me and tell me to leave the wife alone I would DAM WELL DO IT
Puppy Dog Tails here knows how to wire up your wife's car with a GPS so you know where she is all the time too...
I would reccomend you get your posse to meet him at his home, just have them wait til his car is there, say a half dozen of them show up and tell him they want to have a "chat" with him
YOu get them to sit down and have a chat with him, you don't have to be there... you can sit in on teh phone if you want... but I think you will be far scarier if you AREN'T there...
Get his wife to work on him...
Your wife is gonna rant, let her rant all she wants
You keep your ring on and don't go near a divorce lawyer right now...
You make HER file, you make HER hire the lawyer and HER pay for all of that.. not to mention the pain and the nervousness etc.. that puts a HUGE mountain at her feet to climb... she's likley too much of a mess right now to do it
Just set a sample of a repsonsible adult... adults do NOT hang out with other men's wive's in secret wtihout putting that H in the loop....
in MY opinion that man has NO business listening to your wife's PRIVATE marital problems... there's a REASON professional marriage therapists need a LICENSE to practice.. and he AIN'T no THERAPIST
If your house is on fire, do you call a pulmber?
You tell that creep to mind is own business and if YOUR wife wants a shoulder to cry on she can find a family therapist.. that is what THEY do.
I would reccomend you find one FIRST, start going alone... set an example of adult behaviour for her to follow
And try to put that tail on her car if you can...
The amount of trust you extend to your wife right now is parallel to the amount of respect she shows you.. and not an OUNCE more trust than that... And right now she's showing you ZIP.
