MLC - standing by my man

[Mila]

Thank so much for your advice it sure makes me think about thinks more when I hear different opinions. I certainly see your point 1000ships. You are so right that when he asks me to go shopping with him, he asks because it would benefit HIM.

However I would do this for any of my other friends if they asked and since according to DB it's a good think to be his friend then I guess I could treat him as any other friend ???

I know that my other friends didn't betray me, if they did they would most likely stop being what I consider a friend.

Grrr this is so confusing, I just have to think of him as being ill.

I do have some boundries: for example

WH wanted to come and work on the garden (nice offer) and I already had plans to go out. So I said that to him and asked him if we can do it some another time. He said "It's OK I can go to the house and work while you are gone". I said NO, I want to be home when you are there. He got upset. I said that I'm sorry that he is upset but when he gives me the keys to his apartment to come and go as I please when he is not there then I will consider letting him come here like that. He actually said that he doesn't care that he would give me his key if I want. I did not respond.

I also refuse to speak with him (or text and email) when he leaves town to visit OW. I go totally dark. He is upset about it and I told him that I have no interest in communicating with him while he is in bed with her.