SG's mother used to break up with his girlfriends for him.
When he told her he was leaving me, she said "whatever makes you happy."
How about a$$hole you took on responsibilities and unless she is a cold heartless bitch count your blessings????
I gotta tell ya, nothing pissed me off more than when I heard that. I thought, this woman does not even really know me, and she is going to tell him it is okay for him to just walk away without even trying?
And then I remembered something.
My eldest daughter is bipolar, and before she was diagnosed she was really screwed up. She cheated on my SIL left and right, and left him several times. And I would say...drumroll...
whatever makes you happy.
After SG and I split, D24 was still undiagnosed, and once again left my SIL (who, BTW, should be nominated for sainthood), and this time I yelled at her that she had a responsibility to her husband and children not to do what she was doing. I didnt speak to her for four months. And you know what?
Making her accountable for her actions worked. She got her act together, saw a doctor, a therapist, went on meds, and is a completely different person now.
I am not saying that was my doing, she did the work, and I am damned proud of her. My SIL took her back every single time, and now he is in Iraq (God bless him). But I wonder how much of me not allowing her to have any more excuses for bad behavior got the ball rolling a little in the right direction.
If more parents would tell their children to try counseling, try working it out before walking away, there would be less divorces in this country.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
