1. As I mentioned, I don't think he's going to leave his wife and kids. My wife won't put up with that for long.
2. I don't want to be responsible for putting his wife and kids through what I'm going through.
God knows I've wanted to do it, but it seems spiteful and hurtful to the ones not responsible. And she has NOT slept with him. She's been brutally honest with me, and I do believe her in this aspect. I truly believe what she needs is time and distance to consider her actions.
I'm at a point that I still have hope for our marriage, but if it does end in divorce I can eventually accept that and move on. What I don't want to do is sabotage any hope I have by continuing to pursue her, and calling his wife is exactly that.
Disagree with me, I am open to debate on this.
IMHO. Your thoughts are wrong. You are in a fog yourself. I am not going to debate with you on this. I will restate my opinion. And you can go read about others who expose and who do not.
3 out of 4 people know why their lives are messed up. 1 does not. This is wrong. She needs to know. It is the right thing to do. By not telling her you are enabling the affair. And you are mind reading. Want an affair to stop. Bring it to the light. Make it known. Bring crisis to their affair.
The second point. You are not responsible. Did you toss the two of them on top of each other. No. They are responsible. They are the ones who decided that they do not give a rats ass about your marriage.
Your wife has zero respect for that woman and her children. She is a liar and a cheater. She has zero respect for her marriage and zero respect for your marriage.
He has zero respect for you. He is a liar and a cheater. He has zero respect for his marriage , family and he has zero respect for your marriage.
The only brutal honest thing she has said to you was. You caught me. I am going to go off and be with this man in a guilt free environment.
Your wife is a liar. She is living a lie. You are enabling that by believing her. I am going to do a mind read here which is wrong... But did she tell you not to say anything?
Do not believe anything they say and half of what they do.
The path you are following leads to divorce.
2 destroyed marriages.
Your choice.
MAN UP
And learn what tough love is.
Her space and distance is to continue an active affair.
Trust me on this.
Go read.
Flowers always make people better, happier, and more helpful; they are sunshine, food and medicine for the soul. unconditional love is awesome!
