Right now I know that WH is being receptive to my friendsip is unhappy about how thinks are going with OW and that OW is undecided about what she wants. Just talked to her husband and he said that she is in a very bad state of mind. There is lot's of pressure on her from her large family, everyone is telling her that she is out of her mind to leave her husband of 20 years that she loves and her 2 children for a guy in MLC.
This may do the trick of getting OW out of the picture; let things continue in that direction. I hope your husband doesn't know you're keeping tabs on the situation with OW. You'd be accused of "snooping" then, never mind you have a right to know what goes on in that area. Their thinking really boggles the mind, sometimes. Besides, OW is HIS problem, not yours..and he has to decide how he's going to handle it..or better yet, refer above..it may be decided FOR him.
Until she's gone, NO reconnections can be made; he will be unable to get her out of his head and heart.
Detach and distance from the situation the best you can, understanding he really didn't betray you, he's betrayed himself, and that's the worst kind of guilt anyone can face.
From what I'm reading, you're doing fine; taking each day as it comes, doing the best you can in such a bad situation. Keep reading the advice given, it's sound, and designed to help you.
I sent up a prayer for you and your family, Mila. Hold on the best way you can, everything will be all right no matter what happens.
Remember, as each person is different, every MLC/Transition is different..what works for one may not work for another. Most of the time it is trial and error for ALL involved.
