Maybe he got plants so he has somebody to talk to smile

Tell H's brother you would love to hang out but you do not care to discuss anything about your H. Certainly the two of you must have something else you can discuss?!

While you might be friends with your H's brother at the end of the day he *is* your H's brother and that is where his deep loyalties will be. It's best to not discuss anything about your H with him.