1. As I mentioned, I don't think he's going to leave his wife and kids. My wife won't put up with that for long.
2. I don't want to be responsible for putting his wife and kids through what I'm going through.
God knows I've wanted to do it, but it seems spiteful and hurtful to the ones not responsible. And she has NOT slept with him. She's been brutally honest with me, and I do believe her in this aspect. I truly believe what she needs is time and distance to consider her actions.
I'm at a point that I still have hope for our marriage, but if it does end in divorce I can eventually accept that and move on. What I don't want to do is sabotage any hope I have by continuing to pursue her, and calling his wife is exactly that.
