she gave you nine years and for nine years you SHOWED her some things
now...
she had 9 years to be shown something
you expect her to change her mind after having it proven to her for 9 years in 2 months or 7 months????
If for 9 years, every day someone told you that your name was Bradley, they called you Bradley, they wrote you letters addressed to Bradley, they whispered Bradley and yelled Bradley and you responded everytimes and then that same person changed their mind and told you they had changed their mind and would now call you Bill(sometimes they slipped up and called you Bradley still every now and then though)...would you respond everytime when they called you Bill or would you be waiting for them to call you Bradley again?
For 9 years you told your wife she was alone and you were more important, your wants and needs were more important
you have been trying to show her that you changed sometimes you make mistakes and slip up and it goes back to the way it was sometimes she can see the change you made
but.... it has only been 7 months since you have been trying, right???
you haven't even had time to make these changes stick for YOU how do you expect her to believe them?
