I fully agree that I need to shift the focus off of xW -- I'm just not convinced that using a new R, as the PC suggests, is the wisest way to do so. That path leads to Rebound City.
BTW Kat, I think "band-aid" R's are an "equal opportunity" folly. I've known lots of women who cannot bear to be without some form of R with a man, good or bad. They've pinned so much of their self-worth into having a R that they would rather have a bad R than no R. And when it is womenfolk in my family -- mother, aunts, cousins, nieces, in-laws -- and friends, it hurts to see them go through these trials.
