You don't come off as an emotional mess. Remember you are talking to the original hot mess (me!) so I happen to be an expert on who is a mess (me!) and who is not!
We are all here to give each other strength. You have done LOTS of good work in the past 48 hours. Those of us further down the road know how hard it is so when you do good work then applaud yourself. It is not easy to admit the reasons you have to detach. It is not easy to make a list and spell out what you need to do for you. It is not easy to set a boundary as you did when you are hurt and shocked. You *did* do all those things. Be proud!
