My UFO (unbelievably fabulous observations)

[hoosiermama]

thanks, all. (oh, keep 'em coming!)

figgy--the thing is, I don't know what I want to do. Some days I just want to fuhgettaboutit, other days I know I want to say good bye, and almost always I find myself composing something in my head. I've been waiting to feel more definite one way or the other. And since the 2-year mark is coming up, I don't want to let it get away from me.

gardener--there's some real wisdom and practical advice there--thanks. Yes, I was thinking of writing all of them. MIL and FIL are very limited in their insight and wisdom, and increasingly so with age. (and I'd have to type it, print it, and mail it for them to be able to read). xH's brothers and their wives are (usually) much more reasonable and sane. I was much closer to them than to MIL and FIL. posting it here and waiting 48 hours is an excellent idea.

btw--in the first week after the bomb, xH was certain I could still be part of family activities! clearly that wasn't going to happen--it was one of those things they tell themselves to make it ok.