help with a plan

[pigskin]

It is tough in the beginning since you don't know how to avoid a mistake.

A couple of rules of thumb in addition to the DB points that Sandi often posts:

-- Say no word and take no action that is DESIGNED to piss your wife off or stick it to her for how she is making you feel

-- Imagine your wife not as the woman you are familiar with and have such a long history with, but as some woman you just noticed and are attracted to (think of someone else if you need to). How would you get her to notice you? Note that you wouldn't beg, plead or buy a bunch of gifts for some woman you just met. Or say "I love you, I can't live without you, please don't leave!"


That said, don't be afraid to do whatever works. As you see in my thread, I'm trying a bit of a different approach based on some helpful perspectives from others.