I guess I would just bluntly ask you... putting your H aside what changes can you make in YOUR life that will improve YOUR life.
not in order of priority
work on stress management
develop a spiritual practice
work specifically on detaching from my M
become financially independent
be the best mother that I can be
get my children support from outside the family to help them cope with the emotional pain and help S6 with his issues
figure out what it would take for me to laugh and have fun
find an outlet for my desire for adventure that works with my life
broaden my social horizons to include single women and men
have a sexual fling
become an amazing listener
develop a soft, feminine assertiveness
make my home into a refuge that embodies beauty and simplicity
Last edited by flowmom; 03/04/1007:57 PM.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
