flowmom | shifting from devastated to rebuilding

[Gardener]

fm,

I don't know. I assume that many people think "well she must have been a real piece of work" if he would leave his children who he's so devoted to...His social circle consists of old out-of-town friends, and friends from work or his sport. So they will probably not hear my side of the story. H is very convincing...he even convinces me that I've been a misery to be married to .

Don't make assumptions. What's your track record in things you've made assumptions about actually coming to pass, being true? When I read The Four Agreements I had to admit that my record was damn near zero, so I work on never making assumptions.

I still think you may be surprised in the end: People know that a man who left his children because his wife is a real piece of work is a man who... left his children! That's devotion?

If he's very convincing, well, in my book that = smooth talker. I'd wager his friends take it with a grain of salt when he really goes on a tear.

Most people do believe the truth lies somewhere in between. Because it always does. In everything. They won't need to hear your side to know where in between it lies. It lies in between. That's all.

And besides, you're "borrowing" trouble from the future with all this.
You've got enough on your mind - and on your plate - as it as.