how do i keep my hope alive?

[trytryagain]

I kind of think marriage has to be about the individual first. Two unhealthy individuals can't have a healthy marriage. Wouldn't BOTH individuals have to be healthy in order to create and maintain a healthy union?

i agree, city girl! thanks for the thoughtful words. i'm working on being the healthiest me i can be...maybe my H will get to a healthy point where he can work on our M, maybe he won't, i don't know. but right now, my health (mental, emotional, physical, spiritual) is my focus and all i can do is pray that my H gets to a better place...not just for the sake of our M but for his overall well being. i hate seeing him in such a low place, with or without me!