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Lost in-laws and family. Of the many collateral damages in a D, this is one of the most painful. And given your background, it hurts and isolates you all the more.

When you say you've

considered writing letters to my former in-laws

do you mean all of them, or just FIL & MIL?

My suggestions would be:

- Write it, to MIL & FIL only.
- Pen and paper and snail mail. No email.
- Keep it as short as possible.
- Post it here before you send it. You'll get great feedback & editing.

After you're done writing your final version, apply the 48-hour rule and just put it away for two days. Then reread it.

If:
- You still think it's a good idea.
- It says exactly what you want to say to them.
- It has a chance of accomplishing what you want it to accomplish.

Then mail it.