How to approach W about OM

[OfficerInNeed]

So last night OM W calls and tells my wife to stop calling her H, as she had done in the past, and my W failed to heed her word. I started to talk to OM W and she pretty much gathers the same. She is not sure to what extent they are having a relationship for something is going on.

My W wont talk to me about she is being very bitter and tells me that our marriage is nothing more than a piece of paper at this point and she was just trying to co-exist with me. She said a lot of hurtful things.

I ended up calling OM. We spoke for nearly 2 hours about how this all happened. According to him it is nothing more than them venting to each other. My W seems to be painting a terrible picture of me and he is entertaining her thoughts. I know she has become emotionally attached to him but I am still uncertain if it has become physical. Yesterday was the first day she had left the house to meet up with him. Up till then she was going to and returning from work during her usually times and other than that we spend all other hours together.

My W has shut me out she wont talk to me and won't reason with me and from what I was told this OM has now returned back home and "wants to keep his family together." I told me something so innocent was blown way out of proportion ect and he has to make things right and he will turn my W away from now on and encourage her to work it out with me ect.

Now this morning my W wakes up and is refusing to talk to me. She thinks I took her cellphone away from her, when in reality she misplaced it. She then leaves without telling me where she is going and when I called her she said she had just got a new service on a new cell phone.

The OM W had turned off service to his phone.