You say you want to save your marriage but your love for her is almost gone - those two confuse me and while they make sense to me (as I've been there) you need to decide if it's the right thing you want to do.

Do you have the MB books? If not, get them. Read them. And DB her ass off.

How much did you tell OM's wife? Did you tell her everything including they had sex? Are you in contact with her regularly? What is her take on things?

Everything you have done so far - GALing, going dim - has produced the result that she is being 'nicer' to you, as it's supposed to. I would continue down this path.

However, you need to establish some boundaries and find out if she is still in contact with OM.

Last edited by P17; 03/04/10 07:12 PM.
Me 36, W 34 | D 8 | M 3.5y
Sep 2Aug09 | Left 6Sep09 | OM in 10Oct09 | NC 17Nov09 | Gave up caring - Jan 2010

"Have integrity. Do what is right, not what is expedient."
"Delay is the antidote for anger"